Marriage Equality Opponents Want To Have Their Hate and Eat It, Too

Opponents of marriage equality are losing their battle to deny gay and lesbian people the right to marry the person they love. So now they are trying a new tactic to counter all the bad press their bigotry has earned them (emphasis is in original):

Conservatives have long claimed that they’re somehow the victim of persecution when they’re called bigots for opposing same-sex marriage, like when Sen. Marco Rubio (R-FL) said at CPAC, “Just because I believe states should have the right to define marriage in a traditional way does not make me a bigot.” But conservatives are adding a novel layer to this trite argument, claiming they actually very much support gay people.

San Francisco Archbishop Salvatore Cordileone, who recently said that gay couples can never achieve the same intimacy as straight couples, opened Tuesday’s anti-gay Marriage March rally on the National Mall with the following plea:

CORDILEONE: I want to begin with a word to those who disagree with us on this issue and may be watching us right now: we love you, we are your neighbors, and we want to be your friends, and we want you to be happy.

Please understand that we don’t hate you, and that we are not motivated by animus or bigotry; it is not our intention to offend anyone, and if we have, I apologize; please try to listen to us fairly, and calmly, and try to understand us and our position, as we will try to do the same for you.

The problem is, it’s difficult impossible to claim that you love, support, understand, and sympathize with gays and lesbians while simultaneously arguing that gays and lesbians can never, ever, achieve complete physical and emotional intimacy the way heterosexuals can; that they can never, ever, have more than “a close loving committed emotional relationship,” that they cannot procreate or raise children (both obviously untrue). You cannot write sympathetically about ministers who “are trying very hard to persuade twenty year old gangsta wanna-bes that marriage is a great idea” (hey, why not throw in a dollop of racism with your homophobia?) and who complain that said “gangsta wannabes” will never go along with this marriage idea if ‘the gays’ are allowed in — and then feign outrage at being told you are a bigot. Or approvingly reference Charles Cooper’s argument to the Supreme Court that even when heterosexual married couples don’t have children, as in Justice Elena Kagan’s example of a childless couple over the age of 55, “the man is likely to be fertile whether the womon [sic] is or not, and the woman has an interest in assuring his monogamy,” and object to being called homophobic (or, in this instance, that you even have a functioning brain, since the idea that a man who is still fertile is less likely to have an extramarital affair makes no sense, to say the very least).

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